There is No Road to Success

Do you believe that there is a road to success?

Some hidden pathway that will take you directly to your lifetime goals?

I have heard this term used all the time. I believe I have even used it on this very blog. But, now that I think about it, it just can’t be true. A simple road implies that:

  • Someone has already paved or at least cleared it
  • It has been traveled before
  • There are probably no obstacles

Now, I don’t know about you, but life is not simple and easy. Life requires hard work if you plan to get anything you desire. I have never known of anyone who found this road to success. So what gives?

You have to go through some stuff, to get to some stuff

Makes sense, doesn’t it?

  • Did you go through High School to get to College?
  • Maybe through Med school to become a Doctor
  • Went through a few bad relationships before you found someone who actually treated you right?
  • Did you suffer through years of turmoil before you could actually escape your parents?
  • Maybe you even went through countless jobs before figuring out your true calling

Didn’t you click a link or go through an RSS reader to get to this post?

The point is, you have to pave your own way. No one else can do it for you because no one else is you and no one else shares the same destination as you. Your individuality means that, not only is your destination different, but your path diverges as well.

So how can your road to success already exist?

The struggles you are going through now are like the vines and overgrowth of the jungle. Keep pressing on, cutting through and clearing your path. Huge unseen beasts growl in the distance and sometimes you feel like you just want to sit down and close your eyes. Maybe it will all just go away.

Many people stop and even turn back. You probably know some of them. They are getting nowhere fast and are quite unhappy about it. They are lost.

Smash through any obstacles you meet and eviscerate any low beast that comes near. Be persistent and don’t lose your determination. You have been given everything you need to succeed and, eventually, you break through into the Sunlight.

A Leader Doesn’t Care What You Think

Leaders of the packDo you find yourself worrying about how others perceive you? Are you often embarrassed or anxious about others judging you? If so, you definitely have some work to do. Your success in life is contingent on your ability to ignore others and focus on “doing you.”

In her post, What People Think of Me is None of My Business, Samsara offers details on why some people tend to worry so much about the opinions of others. She also offers various methods you can apply to avoid this type of thinking.

What does this really have to do with being successful? If you are focused on what others think about you, that small voice of intuition that nudges you toward your goals may be ignored. You will take actions based on what others expect of you rather than what you feel is right. You have just become a follower. Congratulations! I’ll be taking your leadership badge now. Get back in line, please.

A leader leads. They move on, unerringly, toward their goal. They don’t look back to see if anyone is coming with them or to conduct a poll on what to do next. A leader is too busy achieving things and covering new ground to worry about what people think of them.

Do you care what others think?

Stop Trying To Hit Me and HIT ME!

Stop Trying to Hit Me and HIT ME!

The battle rages. Each exchange of fists and kicks more vicious than the last. They attack and defend and defend and attack. Relentlessly searching for an opening or weakness. Suddenly, one pauses and screams, “Stop trying to hit me and HIT ME!” He is not so much the Master as he is the Motivator. He wants his pupil to give all that he has and hold nothing back. To realize that he can accomplish much more than he thinks he can.

Most of you will recognize this as a scene from The Matrix. Morpheus and Neo fight in a training simulator and Morpheus tries to push Neo to another level, believing that Neo is “The One.” This is not simply a scene from a movie, though. It is a battle that we all fight within ourselves. Read these questions carefully:

  • Do you find yourself getting in your own way?
  • Do you allow your fear to stop you before you start?
  • Do you doubt your abilities?

Well? Do you? The easiest way to fail is to never try. It’s even acceptable in our society to some extent. But, we all have the power to become “The One.” We all have the ability to take control of our thoughts, turn them to the positive side, and ignore fear and doubt. It’s a simple mental exercise of will. You simply have to realize truth…there is no spoon.

Nike probably has one of the most successful ad slogans: “Just Do It.”
One of the reasons it works so well is because it tugs at something
deep inside of all of us. That action-driven, fearless and confident
part of us that yearns to come out and push us inevitably to success. Just do it! Take action!

You haven’t fallen short of your goals because you are a failure. You have fallen short because you quit before you were ahead. You have the talent and the skills. You have all the knowledge you need. Stop stalling and making excuses. There is nothing stopping you but you.

From this day forward, you have to seize opportunity and run with it until you feel like your lungs are filled with molten lava and the back of your throat tastes like you’ve been sucking on pennies. Learn to take action and never let another opportunity pass you by.

I can recall several occasions where I could have taken a relatively simple action and changed the course of my life ever-so-slightly. Maybe it was someone I should have called back, or some project I chose not to be a part of. All because I was afraid of what might happen. I stood bathed in the glow of the oncoming headlights of FAIL and I froze.

The worst thing you can ever do is not try. If you try and you fail, it’s a learning experience. You can look back fondly on failures once they have taken you to your success. If you fail and you never tried, it will haunt you forever.

So Much For Leadership From My Upline

Last night I decide to jump on a conference call and get some leadership and direction from those higher up in one of my companies. It’s very important to stay connected with those who are successful because, well, it actually does tend to rub off.

I’m expecting to gain some knowledge from this call. Maybe a nugget of wisdom to help me to press on with my business. Something inspirational that I can pass down to my team.

The guest speaker was some motivational-speaker-guy that became a millionaire at age 26. He wasn’t very eloquent, isn’t a rep in my company, and didn’t really say anything important. He just kinda spouted a bunch of things you would expect to hear from your average motivational speaker, nothing exciting or ground-breaking. I was a little disappointed.

So, the call is almost completed and the guy is starting to wrap it up when he says that he wants to do something “special” for the people that are on the call. My ears prick up because I thought I had simply wasted 30-minutes of my life that could have been spent watching the Season Finale of House.

He says that he is going to give us his CD set at a huge discount. A set that usually sells for around $250 and he is going to give it to us for…get this: Sixty-Seven Dollars!

Imagine my excitement! I can buy this guy’s entire CD set for just $67?! That’s obviously something I gotta act on right now! Of course, that’s what I would be thinking if I was a network-marketing NOOB.

This is not the first time that my upline has tried to sell me and I really don’t appreciate it. Why bring some guy in that is not even in my company to motivate me? Why have this guy that’s not in my company and not even a good speaker try to sell me his crap? Why do this to me on a regular basis? Why do I feel like the financial leaders in the company are trying to gang-bang me?

What’s the moral of the story? Don’t trust anyone in this business. Like I said, it’s necessary to network with others in order to succeed, but that doesn’t mean you have to trust and believe everything they say. Watch their actions over time. It’s normal for your upline to recommend resources for you to learn from, but if it starts to seem like they are just milking you for all your worth….you are probably right.

What is The Matrix? The Thing That Is Keeping You From Financial Freedom

“The answer is out there, it’s looking for you and it will find you if you want it to” – Trinity

It’s Sunday night and, if your household is like mine, someone is watching a game on TV, someone is checking to make sure the kids have done their homework, there are baths to be taken, laundry to fold or iron, and everyone is worn out from the weekend. And someone somewhere in your house (maybe it’s you) is dreading Monday morning.

This is where my household differs from yours – no one in my home dreads Monday morning: getting up early, the long or short commute to work in the cold or the heat (our commute is from the bedroom on the second floor to the office on the first floor or maybe the studio on the terrace level), making sure there is enough money in your wallet or purse for gas and lunch, facing the continuation of that project you sort of started last week and that your boss wants on his desk this afternoon….facing your boss. We don’t do that around here.

That is your Matrix, the thing that has you. The thing that keeps a roof over your head, clothes on your back, and food in your bellies. It is a trap that is as soft and warm as velvet, it will use you like currency and release you once you are spent. If you are lucky you will get a nice severance package or a retirement check, along with a pat on the head and a “you’ll do great out there”.

Sadly, chances are that you do not know that you are trapped. Sure, sometimes you dream about a life where you work when you want to, answer to no one, take vacations to exotic places and don’t even think about what it costs. But then you wake up, because you know that this lifestyle does not exist for normal people. You know that any claims to the contrary are, more than likely, some sort of scam to get at your hard earned dollars. You know that there is no way in the world that you can work hard for 4+ years and live easy for the rest of your life. You know for a fact that you can’t pay the mortgage and spend more time with your kids. It just can’t be done!

You are one of “millions of people living out their lives-oblivious”, thinking that the trinity of pain, pleasure, and misery are all that define life itself; but the fact that you are reading this (still) tells me that you are ready; it tells me that something is tugging at your soul – screaming to be free. I know that you know that you are caught in the “Matrix”. And I know that you want to be freed.

Denise Porter is a former Marine with an MBA who worked in corporate America for almost 30 years. She is a huge fan of the Matrix movies and believes that they have a lot of lessons for Network Marketers. She is passionate about helping others to make a positive change in their lives.

How Badly Do You Really Want It?!

A wise man once said, “To get what you’ve never had, you’ve got to do what you’ve never done,” which is true to this day. Many of us, hell, all of us, want financial freedom, but we’re afraid to do something different from what we’ve always done. We all know the definition of insanity, so I won’t rehash that old saying, even though it is true.

Everyone is working longer hours for less pay, fewer benefits, and getting far less satisfaction. Now companies are telling their employees, “Screw your happiness, you should be happy just to have a job!” Is this really what you signed up for? Really?! Right now, the only ones who are finding financial freedom and satisfaction through your hard work are your bosses, and when they figure out how to get your job done cheaper, guess who’s going to be shown the door?

Think about it: after numerous years of service and dedication, you’ve been reduced to carrying your personal property out in a box, while wondering what you’re going to do for an income now. I’ve had people say that they prefer the safety of a job. Does that sound “safe” to you?

If you’re happy with getting paid weakly, instead of weekly, then by all means, keep doing what you’re doing! If not, how about doing something different to get different results? How about doing something you’ve never done to get what you’ve never had? Better yet, how about doing what you want to get what you want?

First ask yourself, “What do I want?”, and then ask yourself, “Will I get it by doing the same thing that I am doing now?” After you come up with the answer, then ask yourself, “How bad do I want that?” If you know you’re not going to live your dreams by doing what you’re doing, allow me to introduce you to the “Something Different”: